Follow your heart?

You know the sayings "Follow your heart" and "You can't help how you feel".  While I understand both of these quotes, I also have issues with them.
"Follow your heart". The problem with that saying it that it is based on emotions. And emotions are ever changing based on circumstances. Therefore when we follow our heart it often leads us to a place of uncontentment. Emotions and feelings can lie to us.  The devil can cause negative emotions to rise up inside of us or he can allow positive feelings to rise up, knowing we will act upon them because it feels right, even when it could be completely wrong.  Our hearts can lie to us and deceive us. (this I learned from a Beth Moore study. I found it very insightful and wanted to share it).
"You can't help how you feel". False. Our feelings and emotions are something that we have control over, we just don't often exercise that control.  We give other people the power of controlling them. We allow situations the power of controlling them. And while our feelings are important and need to be properly expressed, we need to be careful not to judge ourselves or others because of how we or they might feel.  Feelings change from moment to moment. One day I feel like going swimming, the next day I don't. That doesn't mean I don't enjoy swimming or that I should give up swimming, it just means I don't feel like going. One day I may be happy with my kids and the next day I may be furious with my kids, but it doesn't mean that I don't love them or enjoy spending time with them.

So to sum up what I am trying to say....
When it comes to major decisions, pray for wisdom and guidance from God and follow your head, not your heart.
Proverbs 14:8a The wisdom of the prudent is to give thought to their ways.
And while sometimes we need to express our feelings to others, we may not need to express EVERYTHING we are feeling. Because feelings change and you may regret tomorrow something you said today that was based on feelings.
We should give it to God and ask Him to help us control our tongue.....neither of which is an easy task and I am the most guilty of not doing this....but it is something I am giving over to God and working on.  I am not perfect by any means, but I try to learn from my mistakes and offer help and encouragement to others.  That is the purpose of this blog.